Connecting to your inner child is important to self-growth and healing. However, you may be asking yourself what an inner child really is all about. According to webster-dictionary, the inner child is “the childlike usually hidden part of a person’s personality that is characterized by playfulness, spontaneity, and creativity usually accompanied by anger, hurt, and fear attributable to childhood experiences.”  The inner child is a powerful presence and is the part of a person that holds pain.

When we block our inner child, then we block our spontaneity and enthusiasm for life!  That eventually can end up looking like fatigue as well as physical & mental illnesses.  We can then begin closing off ourselves to others and not experiencing true emotional intimacy with them.  In other words, for us to fully allow ourselves to be healthy humans, that little child within must feel safe to express emotions and feel loved.

Below are strategies to help you begin to heal your inner child:


Recognizing means consciously acknowledging, in any given moment, the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are affecting you, which may be attributed to your inner child. This can be done with just mental awareness.


Allowing means letting the thoughts, emotions, or sensations you have recognized simply be there without trying to fix or avoid anything. It means to sit with your feelings.  Also, investigate if the feeling is familiar.  Oftentimes, our current emotions are triggered by past wounds.  To investigate just means to get curious!  Get curious about the emotions and thoughts you are having currently, and ask yourself if it is a familiar feeling.


Reparenting means allowing the adult part of yourself to rewrite the messages you received as a child that were hurtful and simply not true, but you held on to as your truth, allowing yourself to recognize those hurtful deceptions and irrational thoughts.  Then, nurture your inner child to give that part of yourself what you needed then but did not get from a nurturing parent.  Be kind to yourself.  You can even bring up in your mind a picture of you as a child.  Then, imagine you, as an adult, going to that little child and giving them what they needed but did not get.


Therapy can be very valuable and helps to create a safe place for you to heal your inner child.  Through working to heal the inner child, you will begin to grow and be a healthy adult that makes healthy decisions.  You deserve that! I encourage you to begin your healing journey today!

An additional resource that can help with nurturing your inner child is journaling.  Check out my Self-Care Planner and Journal.